If this is all I allow you for now, will you still honor me in it?


“Dear friends, do not be surprised at the painful trial you are suffering, as though something strange were happening to you. But rejoice that you participate in the sufferings of Christ, so that you may be overjoyed when his glory is revealed.”
1PE 4:12-13 

Please bear with me for a moment as I’m sure many of you might be thinking, “Christ bore our sins and died on a cruel cross, how can you compare your marital struggles with Christ’s suffering?”  I had that same thought and tried to reject comparing my so called trivial struggles as “participating in the sufferings of Christ” but they always came back.  The struggles have been in my face for over 30 years.  I started to think that God was trying to tell me something (you think?) and that I needed to take a more precise look at Christ’s sufferings and how they pertained to our marriage relationships and His “church”; His bride relationship.  I began to see quite a lot of sufferings Christ might have had and continues to have but they just aren’t directly, verbatim quoted in the Bible pertaining to marriage.  Uh Oh!  Now I’m really in trouble! But hang in there, please! They’re in there, but you may have never related them to your marriage.
Seeing your struggles as a privilege and opportunity offers one more chance to see how God will work in your life when you are willing to do what is necessary to grow into the Christ like character you will be. If your spouse did all the wonderful things taught at the greatest of marriage seminars would certainly make life sweet (offering straw for your bricks) but what if he/she don’t?  What if you have a spouse who won’t even attend marriage seminars and if they do they forget within a week or so and it's back to the old habits
--and let’s not forget your own inabilities to follow through to meet needs. 
I had gotten to a point in my marriage where I honestly felt it would have been better for all involved to just end the marriage and allow all the struggles to go away.  BUT, every time I had this thought God would say, “You have another thought coming…it is not my will that you leave your marriage.”  It is through this union I am going to teach you more about myself.                    

BY FAITH MINISTRIES’ hope is to share with you some of the privileges and opportunities the Lord has offered us and that you will also begin to see your struggles as a privilege and opportunity.
Let us fix our eyes on Jesus, the author and perfecter of our faith, who for the joy set before him endured the cross, scorning its shame, and sat down at the right hand of the throne of God. Consider him who endured such opposition from sinful men, so that you will not grow weary and lose heart.  Hebrews 12:2-3