Job, Unwavering Commitment;

A New Take on Job's Wife

By Dee Wieninger

“In the land of Uz there lived a man whose name was Job.

This man was blameless and upright;

he feared God and shunned evil.”   Job 1:1 NIV

Anyone who really knows me, knows I have a very special place in my heart for Job's wife. Maybe it comes from 40 years of 1Clams/Crowbars, 2Mars/Venus type struggles in our marriage including bouts of PMS - causing extreme mood swings! Or maybe it’s just that I'm an emotional female who 'feels' everything and can cry with Job's wife's tragic grief and loss! But, I like to think that it's because God would one day give me By Faith Ministries and I would need this kind of compassion toward Job's wife in order to hear tHis (note spelling, on purpose!) very special message! 

In my 35 years as a Christian, every sermon I have ever heard on Job, the speaker always seemed to demonize his wife because of her response to her husband in THEIR equal and unprecedented grief and sorrow! Job understood her to be speaking as a "foolish woman" because she had just suffered the same loss he had! She lost her adored children too! She lost her servants and livelihood too and now she was watching her husband suffer with this hideous disease sitting in ashes scratching himself. She was a woman in devastating emotional distress, resulting in her infamous "foolish" outburst, "Curse God and die!"

As Christians, we sing songs about love and grace, mercy and forgiveness, but do we really believe these words extend to anyone else but ourselves? In a Bible study I attended I once heard a man say that he believed God gave Job a new wife! WHERE IN THE WORLD DID HE READ THAT!? How shallow is this kind of thinking? How shallow is this kind of love? Why is it we are so quick to click our tongues at Job's wife, when we ourselves are unwilling to be any more committed than she? How many have given up on their marriages for far less infraction from their spouse? 

(“Do not judge, or you too will be judged. For in the same way you judge others, you will be judged, and with the measure you use, it will be measured to you. 

“Why do you look at the speck of sawdust in your brother’s eye and pay no attention to the plank in your own eye?”  Matthew 7:1-3 NIV)

Job's wife may not have been righteous, but she was blessed to have such a man as Job as her husband, a man who feared God and shunned evil. A husband who loved and honored a God who not only forgives those screaming, "CRUCIFY HIM", but, responds with the most loving, merciful words, "Forgive them, for they know not what they do!" 

Here's a thought! Have you ever once considered that Job offered outstretched arms to hold his grief-stricken wife in order to console her when he said, "You speak like a foolish woman?" The same loving outstretched arms our God offers us? If Job was as blameless and upright as God declared him to be (and of course he was because God said so!) it's quite possible that that's exactly how he would have responded to his wife!  

(Husbands, in the same way be considerate as you live with your wives, and treat them with respect as the weaker partner and as heirs with you of the gracious gift of life, so that nothing will hinder your prayers.”  1 Peter 3:7 NIV)

I recently received this epiphany as a visiting pastor was nearing the end of his message about Job and he made this statement, "Job was more blessed than before and hopefully, his marriage was in a better place."! (This was one of the kindest statements including Job's wife I'd ever heard) Immediately, the Lord gave me this amazing summation of By Faith Ministries' message! "If this is all I allow you for now will you still honor me in it?" * Will you "Do the Difficult on Purpose?" * Will you "Make Bricks Without Straw?"

Job was committed to his wife and stuck with her BECAUSE OF HIS LOVE FOR GOD not because of his love for his wife and because of his commitment to God, they were both blessed!  The culmination of By Faith stories is driving home our theme of commitment to our Heavenly Father, not to our spouse, or others who may have hurt you.  Although, commitment to others is certain to follow as it states in Matthew...

...but seek first his kingdom and his righteousness, and all these things will be given to you as well.  Matthew 6:33

When we honor God in our marriage, as well as all relationships, everyone benefits! Everyone involved is blessed! 

The Lord said to Satan, “Have you considered my servant Job? There is no one on earth like him; he is blameless and upright, a man who fears God and shuns evil.”

God could say that about every one of us because of the cleansing blood of Christ on the cross, but does your attitude reflect the person YOU ARE IN CHRIST? Would God make this proclamation about you? 

"Look at my daughter there is no one on earth like her! She is blameless and upright, a woman who fears God and shuns evil!"  A woman who reflects my Son!

"Look at my son there is no one on earth like him! He is blameless and upright, a man who fears God and shuns evil!"  A man who reflects my Son?

Just one more thought and I'll let you go! I believe the story of Job exemplifies the most Christ-like Christian (man or woman) NOT the perfect husband!  Instead of justifying your right to be appalled and horrified by the treatment of others it's your privilege and opportunity to love and forgive them as Christ did you!


...but God shows his love for us in that while we were still sinners, Christ died for us.  Romans 5:8 (ESV)


Men are Clams Women are Crowbars by David Clarke, Helping Hands Press (July 23, 2013)

Men are from Mars Women are from Venus by John Gray, PhD, (Harper Collins Oct. 13, 2009)


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